Blogger Identity: Be Careful What You Say… It Defines You
An inferiority complex is an unrealistic feeling of general inadequacy caused by actual or supposed inferiority in one sphere that often results in timidity or self-diminishment. I know, that’s a lot to take in, so let me give you the condensed version: What you say is what you are, and it shows up like a big, flashing neon sign on your blog.
Every day I see comments and emails that say things like:
- I know I don’t have anywhere near the traffic you have…
- I’m never going to be one of those A-list bloggers…
- I can’t write as well as those other bloggers…
- I’m just a small blogger, but I was wondering…
- I don’t know anything about html…
- I don’t know much about blogging but…
The one thing all of these statements have in common is that they focus on something the questioner is lacking, something negative. More to the point, they focus on something the questioner thinks is a negative and that’s what really matters. Instead of focusing on the skills they do have, they’re focusing on things they don’t have.
Many of these bloggers are also comparing themselves to other bloggers and casting themselves in an even more negative light.
It’s understandable that when these bloggers come to me with questions they’re going to express the problem in terms of something they feel they’re lacking. But I have to wonder if these negative expressions are symptoms of an underlying inferiority complex and, if so, what affect is it having on their blogs?
The affect on you
Always focusing on the negative will eventually cause you to forget you have any positive attributes and all, and there’s something positive about all of us. You may not be the best writer, but you don’t have to be better than someone else, you just have to be good enough for your readers.
Having a low self-opinion tends to make bloggers timid and that’s the worst thing you can be in the blogging world. You become one of those bloggers who only repeats what everyone else is saying because you’re too afraid to take a stand on the issues.
The affect on your blog
Your readers can sense when you lack self-confidence. You’ll be that blogger who never expresses an opinion, the blogger who only defines the problem but never really tells them how to solve it. There are millions of timid bloggers in the world and none of them have followers. If you want people to follow your blog then you have to show them you’re willing and able to lead.
Other bloggers aren’t going to link out to you either. They want to send their readers to confident bloggers who have strong opinions and unique viewpoints, not someone who’s afraid of his own shadow.
How do you get rid of your blogger inferiority complex? I’m glad you asked because I’m going to cover that in another post tomorrow. But for now, it’s important to understand that your readers have no idea what you don’t know or what you don’t have. All they see is what you’re putting on the page. And if they like it, that’s all that really matters.
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